STANDING AT THE GREEN GROWING EDGE OF OUR BECOMING
"I am made in the image and likeness of God, the Infinite Divine Creator." "As such, I am a Creative Being!" "I am here to intentionally create." "I expand in abundance, success, and love every day as I inspire those around me to do the same."
We have been exploring what these words mean - really mean ---- in our lives during the month of October. And I understand from many of you that what we have discussed over this month has pushed some buttons. I have gotten more than one "thanks a lot for taking me out of my comfort zone. I really was doing just fine where I was, thank you very much!" Well, to that I say "you are very welcome! Just doin' my job, which is . . .:
. . . to comfort the afflicted and to afflict the comfortable!"
The theme for this month has been "Intentional Creation," and I have offered the idea that we are the happiest - more specifically, I've said that our joy meters are the highest -- when we are in the process of and making progress in intentional creation.
Today, we are going to look at a phrase coined by Hildegard von Bingen, a 16th century Christian mystic. She talked about: "The green growing edge of our becoming"a referring to how we are all meant to grow in our awareness, in our inner knowing and in our expression as expanding beings; how we are meant to walk right up to that edge of comfort and to know that the next iteration of our expression as Divine Beings is on the other side of it.
How many of you feel, in some area of your life, that you are right now standing at the green growing edge of your becoming? Let me see a show of hands. Oh goodie, we are in the right place at the right time, that's for sure!
I think we are standing there as a community, and I certainly know I am personally as well!
If you recall, I said that last week's talk was really Part 1 of a two-parter and that today would be Part 2. Last week, I said that there is a lot of risk in stepping out on the edge and since risk can be so darned scary, we create "safe problems."
Safe problems are our distractions/our excuses we come up with so our attention is diverted and we don't have to walk to the edge. Remember? And I said today I would talk about the specific fears we are trying to avoid with our Safe Problems and that I would tell you the mother of all fears.
If we look at our human emotions and psyche, we will find that there are nine core fears. Now the reason it is important to realize they are in operation and to have a plan for working with them is they will otherwise send us running for our Safe Problems. We might not even know what happened, we will just run! Now that actually won't be the case after today and all we've explored this month because we now have a whole new level of awareness, right?!
We all have all of these fears to some degree, but we usually have ONE primary one that comes up on a regular basis . . . like say every 10 minutes or so!
As I say them, just give some loving, compassionate and tender thought to what might be yours. Ask yourself, "which fear is driving my bus?"
1. Fear of being judged as wrong, bad or imperfect;
2. Fear of being worthless, unworthy, or inconsequential;
3. Fear of failure, of being incompetent, or unable to do;
4. Fear of being abandoned or ignored;
5. Fear of overwhelm and intrusion;
6. Fear of missing out or being limited;
7. Fear of being blamed;
8. Fear of showing weakness and vulnerability; and
9. Fear of being unlovable, shut out or inharmonious (this includes fear of conflict)
As I said, we all have all of these fears to some degree, but usually we have ONE primary one.
Now, here's the deal, probably as long as we are in this human experience and coming up to our green growing edge of becoming, our primary fear will be present, but the question is "what are we going to do about it?" Are we going to let it always drive the bus or are we going to take the wheel and put it in its proper seat? Are we going to master the fear or let fear be our master?
So identify your primary one. Have you identified it? Yes? Just say it out loud, everyone at the same time on the count of 3. 1 . . . 2 . . . 3! Good, thank you for your honesty and authenticity and dare I say vulnerability?!
So I said there are nine, but there really is one more. One more that is the mother of all the fears and actually stands at the base, underneath each and every one of these. Before I share it with you, I want to give you steps to support you in mastering fear.
First Step to Mastering Fear - Practice Non-Resistance
* Suppressing fear is resistance
* Denying fear is resistance
* Spiritually by-passing fear is resistance - what do I mean by that? Immediately going to "It's all good; it's all God!" as a way to not feel the fear. I love this quote from Ingrid Mathieu in an article in Psychology Today online: "[Spiritual bypass] . . . is spiritual practice in the service of repression, usually because we cannot tolerate what we are feeling or think we shouldn't be experiencing what we are feeling."b
* Wanting your fear just to go away is resistance
* Trying to make your fear go away is resistance
* Judging fear as wrong or bad is resistance
And, as New Thought pioneer, Florence Scovel Shinn, wrote in The Game of Life & How to Play It: "So long as we resist a situation, we will have it with us."c
Rather than resist it; practice non-resistance with it, meaning:
* Don't try to suppress it; allow yourself to feel it
* Don't deny its existence; acknowledge it and feel it.
* Definitely don't spiritually by-pass it; feel it!
* Don't want or try to make it go away, just be with it and feel it.
* And, please, please please, don't judge it or you as wrong or bad, just feel it.
Do you see a theme to non-resistance?! Allow it to just be and feel it!
So, for just a moment right now, breathe into it. Give it some space. And just feel it. Give it some love. Know that in the moment, a little extra grace is required here. Do that right now with the primary fear you identified a moment ago.
And then from this sweet space of non-resistance, we take the next step, which is . . . forgiveness.
Second Step to Mastering Fear - Forgiveness
Say to yourself right now: "I forgive myself for having the fear that I am feeling now." To the best of your ability, feel that statement in your body. Forgiving yourself for having the fear is an imperative step toward mastery.
Before I speak to the third step to mastering fear, I want to share with you the mother of all fears. The one that sits at the core of all of these.
I wanted to share this now, because the third step is what we must do to master this main fear . . . after practicing non-resistance and forgiveness.
Ernest Holmes speaks of it in The Science of Mind, and I want to take it a bit deeper. He said: "Someone has said that the entire world is suffering from one big fear . . . the fear that God will not answer our prayers."d
But it's a bit more than that. It is the fear that if I step out into my green growing edge of becoming, if I take a risk to create something amazing, if I jump off the ledge in my parachute, and IF I FAIL, if I crash and burn, then it will mean that I am disconnected from Source, I am not One with the One -- and that is a terrifying thought.
We think everyone else is connected, but we might not be and if I try and I fail, then it's confirmed that I'm not and I cannot risk getting that confirmation.
Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Because I want there to be space in you to hear this.
* You are eternally connected to Source;
* One with the One;
* You cannot not be.
Turn to your neighbor and say: "You are eternally connected to Source . . . You are One with the One . . . You cannot not be."
Turn within and say to yourself: "I am eternally connected to Source . . . I am One with the One . . . I cannot not be."
So that takes us to the third step to mastering all fear (not getting rid of it; but mastering it). And a book was written with this title . . .
FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY
Third Step to Mastering Fear - Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
And I will add: "remembering that you've got the Universe behind you, in you, through you and as you!"
And if it feels like you get a little bruised along the way, things don't go quite like you think they should, know that you still have the Universe behind you, through you and as you!
So pick yourself up as many times as you need to because you are always connected to Source; God is always there; always ready; always willing to support you 100% -- even if it doesn't look like it in the moment! Pick yourself up and allow yourself a Divine Do over! I love, love love Divine Do overs! So give yourself one . . .
From Atom Smashing Power of Mind, Fillmore writes: "Our Scriptures, plus the guidance of 'the Spirit of truth' recommendation by Jesus, from . . . a textbook for Christians. In this combination is found instruction fitted to the needs of the multitude. The timid and fearful read, 'Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of good courage; be not affrighted, neither be thou dismayed: for Jehovah thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.'"e [repeat last line: Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go ..'f]
Today and every day moving forward, let us no longer be slaves to fear. Let us release the chains of fear and gain mastery so that we live at the green growing edge of our becoming, we spread our wings and we soar into our ever expanding creativity, stretching and growing in our expression of the Divine and living with an undercurrent of deep and abiding joy! And so it is!
aHildegard von Bingen
bIngrid Mathieu article in Psychology Today
cFlorence Scovel Shinn, The Game of Life & How to Play It p. 30
dErnest Holmes The Science of Mind, p. 156
eAtom Smashing Power of Mind, Charles Fillmore p. 103