TAKE OFF THE HANDBRAKES OF HISTORY
Let's start with prayer: Father, Mother ,God; help us to see our possibilities. Help us to push out the parameters that limited us. Show us that our limitations are not valid, but merely something that we were told in the past. Help us to see how great we really are for we are one with you. AMEN.
I really would have loved to have ridden in here this morning on a motorcycle, wearing black leathers, mirrored sunglasses and a durag on my head, but (a) I don't have a motorcycle, black leathers, mirrored sunglasses or a durag and (b) I figured the theme for this month, "Being Your Badass Self," was outrageous enough! I mean, who says that in church?!
Well, this month we do. I figured since it's been really hot outside, why not heat it up inside by pushing out the edges of our comfort zones with a little irreverence? Are you ready for that? Whew! Good thing!
Stop and think about it for just a moment. What would the possibilities for your life be if you were to push out the edges of your personal comfort zone? What could your life look like if you took the handbrakes off the ways in which you believe in yourself? What amazing things could you experience if you realized your over-the-moon abilities to shine your light and express your God-given talents?
That's enough to cause us to get a bit breathless, isn't it?! I posit that a lot of us don't know the answers to those questions because we haven't ever really pushed out the edges of our comfort zones or taken the handbrakes off the beliefs about ourselves or given credit to our over-the-moon abilities!
Or perhaps we gave that a try, and it didn't go as expected - that's code for how we would like - so we retreated back into our comfort zone!
It is my hope, my intention, my prayer to inspire all of us this month to take off the handbrakes and push out those edges even just a bit, get a glimpse of our over-the-moon abilities and talent and live into our badass selves!
This month is inspired by the book You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero.
In numerology, which I find fascinating, August, the 8th month, brings brilliant new opportunities, and we must allow ourselves to shift toward a new vision of our place in the world.
The number 8 embodies the themes of fearlessness, vitality, healing and enterprise. It's all about courage right now, and not holding back because of the fears of the past.
Part of this month's cycle may bring us challenges around authority figures. The authority figure may well be internal, as in the memory of your Mother or Father saying to you, "You can't do that, you don't have what it takes, and you're not good enough anyway."
These crippling internal dialogues can haunt us for decades, and part of the healing energy of August is to finally let them go.
And that sets us up perfectly for where we are going to go today as we explore Taking Off the Handbrakes of our History so that we can be our Badass selves!
TAKE OFF THE HANDBRAKE
I want to start our specific conversation today with a quote from the book: "When you came screaming onto this planet you were truly a bundle of joy, a wide-eyed creature incapable of doing anything but being in the moment. You had no idea that you had a body, let alone that you should be ashamed of it. When you looked around, everything just was. There was nothing about your world that was scary or too expensive or so last year as far as you were concerned. If something came near your mouth, you stuck it in, if it came near your hand, you grabbed it. You were simply a human . . . being. While you explored and expanded into your new world, you also received messages from the people around you about the way things are. From the moment you could take it in, they started filling you up with a lifetime's worth of beliefs, many of which have nothing to do with who you actually are or what is necessarily true (e.g., the world is a dangerous place, you're too fat, homosexuality is a curse, hair shouldn't grow there, going to college is important, being a musician or an artist isn't a real career, etc.). The main source of this information was, of course, your parents, assisted by society at large. When they were raising you, your parents, in a genuine effort to protect you and educate you and love you with all their hearts (hopefully), passed on the beliefs they learned from their parents, who learned them from their parents, who learned them from their parents . . . The trouble is, many of these beliefs have nothing to do with who they actually are/were or what is actually true. I realize I'm making it sound like we're all crazy, but that's because we kind of are."a
We all grew up learning (and then believing) a lot of things that just weren't true about us. In fact, many of us today are living in an illusion based on someone else's beliefs.
My friends, isn't it time to unshackle ourselves from those illusions and start creating a badass future based not on our history but on our own brilliance? I say yes, it is!
To support us in that, I want to briefly explore three selves that are operating in us and then have an experience of breaking free from the one that doesn't support us.
They are: Our False Self, Our Infinite Self and our Authentic Self. Take a guess at which has a hold of the handbrake?
First, there is the False Self where the handbrakes of our history resides! All our false and limiting beliefs hang out here. This is where we judge, obsess, analyze, criticize, worry that our ears are too big and our brains are too small. Our False Self is full of fear and doubt.
It is also a relentless overachiever, incessantly spinning around from thought to thought, stopping only when we sleep (and I'm not even sure about then!) but certainly revving back up as soon as we open our eyes in the morning.
And although it is relentless, it really doesn't know what it wants!
The False Self is a seeker (always looking to future; "I'll be happy when . . . "), a grasper (The past was so much better/easier/simpler; "I want to return to then"; or fearful that today's good will go away) and a controller (must have a say in how everything is done and how it turns out).
I have fallen into these traps. I can remember thinking "I'll be happy when I lose some weight." But I know that this was false thinking because I have a picture of myself in a white bikini during those years and I didn't have an ounce of fat on my body. This False Self doesn't live in reality, but only in old beliefs about ourselves.
The False Self abhors the unknown. It believes everything it hears and feels, a lot of which simply isn't true!
Do you know that self? Talk to me. How does yours show up?
On the other end of the spectrum is your Infinite Self - your oneness with the One. That which is beyond time and space. In a sermon by Charles Fillmore he said: "A right concept of God is absolutely necessary to a proper adjustment of the individual to his environment. We must know that God is Spirit and that God is mind, that God is that omnipresent principle out of which every thought comes and every act, and that man is the expression of this infinite mind. Now if you get that clear and begin to use your thought and that spirit of inspiration in you which makes you what you are, why you will see just how you will adjust yourself, and that spirit of knowing which belongs primarily to every one will begin to flash in your consciousness, and you will see how the law must be carried out."b
That which has no desires because all is already given. It is limitless power to which we are all connected.
In the Revealing Word Charles Fillmore states: "There is only one presence and one power--God, Spirit, is the only presence in the universe, and is the only power. He is in, through, and around all creation as its life and sustaining power."c
It's the individualization of the Infinite Self. We are the multiplicity in the One. Your heart's desires, your gifts and talents, your joy, your juiciness, your badass self lives as your Authentic Self! Delights in living. Tells the truth about who you are.
It's the open receiver of all your good because it is not bound by limiting beliefs and historical inaccuracies!
It operates in concert with the Infinite Self. It gets validation from within (I love and trust myself, this feels right to me, I have a purpose, I am loved,) it's proactive (I'm in control of my life, I think I'll head on out and kick some ass) loved-based and is committed to creating a reality based on your limitless potential - as soon as you wake up from the trance the False Self has put you in!
Your Authentic Self lives in the present; it's not a seeker, a grasper or controller, and it totally believes in miracles.
Talk to me about what you know about your Authentic Self.
Here's the deal, when the Authentic Self docks into the Infinite Self, the False Self leaves the room!
Sincero writes at p. 49: "We spend our lives drifting between glimpses of our own, infinite glory and the fear that not only are we totally incapable/unworthy/lazy/horrible, but that it's only a matter of time before someone blows the whistle on us. We torture ourselves incessantly, and for what purpose? If we can glimpse the glory (and I know you can), why do we waste our precious time giving any energy to the other options? Wouldn't life be so much more fun, productive, and sexy if we fully embraced our magnificently delightful selves?"d
And I would tweak that last sentence to say: "Wouldn't life be so much more fun, productive, and sexy if we fully embraced our Authentic Selves."
So let's do that now. Just close your eyes concentrate on your breathing. But yourself relax into your seat and know that you are safe. So let's wake up from the trance that our false self has put us in. Let's unshackle ourselves from those illusions.
If you are a seeker always looking to the future, let's let that go, let's just shake it off. If you are a grasper for the past, let's let that go, just shake it off. If you are a controller, let's let that go, just shake it off. Just unshackle yourself from all of these illusions.
Now let's dock the Authentic Self into the Infinite Self. Just know:
"You are perfect. To think anything less is as pointless as a river thinking that it's got too many curves or that it moves too slowly or that its rapids are too rapid. Says who? You're on a journey with no defined beginning, middle or end. There are no wrong twists and turns. There is just being. And your job is to be as you as you can be. This is why you're here. To shy away from who you truly are would leave the world you-less. You are the only you there is and ever will be. I repeat, you are the only you there is and ever will be. Do not deny the world its one and only chance to bask in your brilliance."e
And so it is. Let it be your way.
aYou are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life Jen Sincero.pg 20
bCharles Fillmore Sermon "Vigilance in Thought Protection"
cRevealing Word Charles Fillmore
dYou are a Badass: Jen Sincero.pg 49
eYou are a Badass: Jen Sincero.pg 50